Oh, the Stress
They say that the first year of marriage is the hardest. But I have to disagree.
My husband and I are in our second year of marriage, and it’s been much more challenging than our first! Much of the challenge comes from dealing with stress: a newborn, home-buying, new jobs, unexpected hospital bills… And while some of those stressful things are not bad things by any means, they are still, well, stressful.
Compared to this year of marriage, our first year was a breeze.
We’re still deeply in love, though. It definitely just takes more of an effort to show it, some days! Do you ever feel that way?
As usual, the craziness starts the moment my alarm buzzes. Morning routine: feed the baby, let out the dog, get dressed, do hair/makeup, eat breakfast, leave a note for the babysitter, run out the door, stop for coffee (a necessity!). It’s go, go, go. The whole day. By the time evening hits and my husband gets home, I’m exhausted! Sometimes I’m in my pajamas by 8:00. (Pathetic, I know.)
This is the life of a mom. Really, it’s kind of universal…once you say hello to a newborn, you say goodbye to lazy days and free time. It’s a beautiful thing but it can drive you crazy, too!
There doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day. Most days I don’t even finish everything on my to-do list, much less find time for myself to sit back and relax. These days, I barely know what “relax” means! *sigh*
As busy as we mommies can be, however, we cannot forget to love our husbands. I mean, to really show them love. It’s easy to forget that in the chaos of parenthood, they deserve our love, devotion, and attention as much as our little ones do.
It’s true that the days of cuddling on the couch for hours, TV on, wine in hand, are over–or are at least a rarity! Life isn’t the same as when you were newlyweds. Parenthood throws you into a world of crazy, a world of adventure, a world of excitement and difficulty and joy. But you and your husband are living it together. So love him. And show him you love him.
Love Him Simply
It can be tough, prioritizing marriage. I’ll be the first to admit that I often struggle with it…especially when I’m feeling exhausted. I forget to give my best to him, first and foremost.
He needs not only to know he’s loved, but to feel loved. (Isn’t that the same for us, ladies?)
Let’s challenge ourselves to show our husbands a little extra love this week. Spice up the busy days by showing him you’re thinking of him in the midst of all the craziness. Here’s a list of 7 ways to do this easily!
- Bring him coffee randomly.
- Send him a text that tells him how much you adore him. You’re on your phone anyway, aren’t you?!
- Grab a bottle of wine to enjoy with dinner.
- Put a love note in his lunch bag.
- Kiss him when you walk by him.
- Brag about him in front of your friends, when he’s listening.
- Send him pictures–hey, you’re married, so do what you want 😉
This is only seven of many, many ways to show your husband love. Really, it doesn’t have to take a lot of planning or time. Little gestures can go a long way. How many more ideas can you add to my list?
Just for you, I’ve created an adorable (and FREE) love notes printable! Just download, print, and sneak it someplace your hubby will find it!
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