When you can’t be a SAHM…and you want to be

20. April 2017 Lifestyle, Parenting 16

When You Can't Be a SAHM

It’s 8:35 pm, and it’s the first time I’ve sat down since I got home from work. Cleaning, laundry, cooking dinner, eating (while standing to bounce baby), baking muffins for tomorrow’s breakfast…

Well, I sat down twice to breastfeed–but even then, I held baby with one arm and multi-tasked when I needed to! Have you ever had a day like that? It can be exhausting.

These days, I’m wishing I could be a stay-at-home-mom. I absolutely love my job, but my priority is being a wife and mommy, and sometimes, I feel like I’m just giving half my effort for the two.

When it isn’t quite possible to be a SAHM, you’ve got to prioritize accordingly. The following list is to get me (and you) through the next few years, until SAHM-status is achieved!

  • Communicate with your spouse. “I’m really exhausted today. Can you help me with one of my regular chores?” Just ask. It goes a long way, and sounds so much better than complaining!
  • Opt for a “sick” day, every so often. Seriously, do it. But be smart about it! For example, my daughter and I both have appointments that need to be taken care of in the month of May. So, I scheduled them for the same day, and will not be going to work that day. I have good reason to miss work, yet I’ll be spending an entire day with my baby girl! It’s a break from the daily grind 🙂
  • Choose your chores. Can your laundry wait an extra day? Can you ask a neighbor to please take your dog for a walk once a week? It’s totally okay.
  • Monetize. One way to relieve stress (and to get you closer to being a SAHM) is to save money. Where can you cut costs? Trust me, I know this is hard, especially with children (and temptations like Starbucks).
  • Pray. I don’t do this enough. God knows the plans He has for you! Find peace and rest in His ultimate goal for you. If it is His will for you to be a SAHM, you will be. Just talk to Him and He will guide you in the steps to get you to that point.

That’s all for today (tonight…gosh, it’s late already!)



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16 thoughts on “When you can’t be a SAHM…and you want to be”

  • 1
    Rebecca Smith on April 22, 2017 Reply

    This rings true for me…..and the coffee thing….It’s Costas here! Lovely post, good luck with the blog x

  • 2
    Allie | LunaVida on April 22, 2017 Reply

    I don’t have kids, but I can only imagine how hard that choice is to make.

    You got this! 🙂

    Allie | http://www.lunavidablog.com

    • 3
      Savannah on April 22, 2017 Reply

      Hi Allie,
      Thanks for stopping in! It is such a hard choice and I can only hope it gets easier!
      I’d love to check out your blog as well.

  • 4
    Sharon on April 22, 2017 Reply

    Enjoyed reading this post. And believe me I have been where you have been. My daughters are all grown up now though.

    Now I am a fellow blogger, writer and musician. Keep up the good work!

    Blessings to you!

    • 5
      Savannah on April 22, 2017 Reply

      Thank you for the kind words, Sharon! It is great to hear from other moms who can relate.
      I’d love to check out your blog 🙂

      • 6
        Sharon on April 22, 2017 Reply

        I am at http://thisishissong.com. Forgot to say I left my full-time position in HR to pursue the writing and music. But while I was in HR, my specialty was quality of Work/Life which I became passionate about after my own challenges as a work outside the home mother. Of course while in that position I was probably the most unbalanced person I knew! Smile!

        • 7
          Savannah on April 23, 2017 Reply

          Smile! I admire your initiative in pursuing your dreams! I hope you are still enjoying your writing and music. By the way, your blog is lovely!
          xx, Savannah

  • 8
    Joan on April 23, 2017 Reply

    Great post, I had to prioritise once I had my son and asking for help was the only way to make me sane. I so relate with this and I am sure most moms would too.

    • 9
      Savannah on April 23, 2017 Reply

      Hi Joan,
      Thanks for the comment! I’m glad you can relate. This is such a real problem that moms have to face! Were you able to stay at home eventually?

  • 10
    Janice on April 23, 2017 Reply

    I can imagine how hard it must be for you. 😕 But being a SAHM is not a walk in the patk either…😪 you’ll realize your duties only pile up. It can get lonely, and sometimes you just want to take out the trash so you can have a moment for yourself. 😅

    • 11
      Savannah on April 23, 2017 Reply

      Hi Janice, Thanks for dropping in! Yes I know that SAHMs are often the busiest of all moms! Truthfully, I am exhausted from this weekend of mom duties…
      but being with my daughter is well worth the exhaustion.
      Have you joined any mommy support groups? I hope I will get the chance to, in the future! 🙂

  • 12
    SHANIKA GRAHAM on April 23, 2017 Reply

    I love this! I can definitely relate! Sometimes I feel like I’m being stretched thin. I work from home, however, I find that it’s even HARDER this way since my little one sees me all the time. Plus, I still breastfeed so I know just how hard it is to multitask while doing it. I definitely love your suggestions and I do believe that they are great steps in the right direction. It’s so refreshing to read about another Mama’s struggles. I don’t feel alone. Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best of luck on this journey! 🙂

    • 13
      Savannah on April 24, 2017 Reply

      Hi Shanika, I’m so glad you relate! I will definitely be posting a lot more about motherhood and I hope to hear from you again! Wow, I’d love to hear about how you work from home. I know that must be challenging, but I hope I’ll be able to do that in the future.
      Best wishes to you! xx

  • 14
    Hena Jose on April 24, 2017 Reply

    Its tough to be working and tough to be SAHM. You feel torn apart in both ways.

    • 15
      Savannah on April 26, 2017 Reply

      Hi Hena, I think you’re right! There are definitely pros and cons to each situation.

  • 16
    Lexie on May 26, 2017 Reply

    I really needed this today.
    Thank you for sharing and supporting. ❤️

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